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Are You
“How to stop putting yourself last,
Sick and tired of letting people take advantage of you? Eager to change things but don’t know where to start? Feel guilty when you even think about saying “No”? Do you wish you could lay down some boundaries? Have you tried to let go of worrying what people think of you? Is that YOU? |
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Then there are two things you need to know right now: 1) You’re in great company. There are thousands upon thousands of delightful people just like you, who feel just the same as you do. They’re also dying to discover how break out of the strait-jacket of “People Pleasing” 2) This could be what you need to TURN YOUR PEOPLE-PLEASING HABIT ON ITS HEAD. In fact “But If I Say 'No' They Won't Like Me” could be EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. To: Anyone who has had ENOUGH of letting other people pressure, nag or coax them into doing things they don’t want to do. Don’t have the time right now to read this right now? Then click here to print and read this letter as soon as you can, because it’s as if someone is offering you the helping hand you need over the Internet… if you just click away, it will be gone. From: Annie Kaszina, October 2006 Dear Friend, Are you a lovely person who falls over yourself to help the people in your life? Hey, before you go feeling uncomfortable, let me tell you a secret. Whether you answered that question: by saying to yourself: “Well, I’d like to think I am a lovely person, but I’m not really sure”, or whether you thought: “Well, actually I AM” doesn’t make much difference. You are a lovely person.You see, you need to remember that being a lovely person isn’t anything you have to do; it’s who you are. But ‘doing’ it eats up so MUCH of your energy. I’m guessing:
This book could, quite literally, change your life! Do you want to find out a few ‘insider secrets’, try a few simple techniques and give yourself a chance for once? Why not let go of the stress, the frustration and the sheer thanklessness of trying to please people who are just plain ungrateful? Did you know, you can start to please yourself first and people will like and respect you more for it. YES! You really can STOP being a people-pleaser. Have you ever said: “It’s not important. I’ll manage”? Even when you were worn out and needed help and support yourself? You, my friend, are that special person who puts your own life on hold when someone asks you for help. Maybe that’s what you do even when your own need is crying out to be met. Even when you know someone is asking way too much of you, saying “No” and meaning it can feel like the hardest thing to do. Do you worry about how other people will judge you if you say “No”? Perhaps you’re terrified of how you will judge yourself unless you always, automatically say “Yes”. That’s ok. When you read this book you will rediscover your inner strength, your self-esteem and your belief in your own likeability. Let me introduce myself. I’m Annie Kaszina. I’m the author of “But If I Say 'No' They Won't Like Me". I’m a writer, motivational speaker and specialist Personal Growth Coach. I work with people who are ready to start taking care of themselves for a change. I’m also someone who spent my whole time putting other people first; and wondered why I was left feeling bad, and irritated and unimportant. It took me most of my adult life to learn two ugly truths that set me free: 1) I felt unimportant was because the people in my life actually weren’t interested in my abilities and talents. They were only interested in what I could do for them. 2) People-pleasing does NOT work.
Whatever the problem, You only ever wind up more worried. So you keep on blaming yourself. Because if they are unhappy, it must be your fault. Well, it must be, mustn’t it? It’s never theirs. So you tell yourself: “I must try harder. I must do more to make them happy.” It took me over 2 decades to understand the Law of Diminishing Returns. I finally realized the more I did for other people, the less they would ever do for themselves. And the less they would ever thank me. I finally realized that no matter how hard I tried, they were never going to appreciate it. You see, it just doesn’t work that way. That realization was life changing.
Well, here’s the thing: “If you just keep on doing more of what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting more or what you’ve always gotten.” The more you keep people-pleasing, the less thanks you will ever get. I realized: “There has to be a better way” And I made it my mission to discover what that better way was. First off, I didn’t know where to turn for the answers. Sure, plenty of people, and books, will tell you what to do. But they don’t tell you how to do it. They don’t offer you a step-by-step guide that you can use to build your “mental muscle” and put strong boundaries in place. What I needed was a guide that was so simple and clear and powerful that I’d be free of guilt, or anxiety. Something that would be so easy to follow as to be almost foolproof. Since nobody else had written a guide like that, I knew that I would have to. Over the past five years, I’ve studied everything I could find about relationships, Neuro Linguistic Programming and growing your self-esteem. The discoveries I made AMAZED me. In fact, they transformed my life and my relationships. Once I started to grasp the secrets a person can use to create boundaries in their life, I found out how to be assertive, confident and liked for who I am, not what I do. I discovered the simple secrets of building strong boundaries. The effects on my quality of life were awesome. If I could do it, anybody could. So I decided to use everything I’d learned to shorten the learning curve for other people-pleasers as much as I possibly could.Now I show other generous, caring, helpful people how to apply these secrets to their own situation. Once they do, they are amazed at the space, time and energy they can create for themselves in their life. Too good to be true? That’s what I would have thought, if someone had said all of this to me. Good advice didn’t do it for me at all. Every time someone said: “You shouldn’t do that”, “You should do this”, it only made me feel worse. Because they didn’t understand. They probably just thought I was stupid. I thought I was stupid. They could only tell me how to go into conflict – and I hated conflict. I still do. They didn’t tell me how I could change what I did in a way that would be good for me and good for the person I’d been trying to please. Sure, they wanted to help. But they didn’t know how to help me to help myself. Only a reformed people-pleaser can truly understand that. But suppose someone walked you through the process, step by step? So you ended up feeling confident about your boundaries with:
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CLICK HERE to Claim Your Copy of "But If I Say 'No' They Won't Like Me” NOW - absolutely Risk Free. What needs to happen for you to decide to take action? People pleasing affects all areas of your life. You’ve been thinking about how you’d like your life to be. Here’s your chance to gain the insights, courage, confidence and simple techniques to get your life on track. You CAN take charge of your own life, quickly and easily. 5 minutes from now you can be reading your own copy of “How To Say “No” And Still Feel Good About Yourself”. If you’re serious about breaking the old pattern of being overworked, overstretched and overlooked once and for all, you owe it yourself to begin your journey now. There’s no way you can lose – unless you don’t take me up on this risk-free offer and try it for yourself. Here’s to the new, assertive, joyful you. Annie Kaszina P.S. If you don’t claim your copy of this breakthrough ebook now, I’ll assume you aren’t ready to make any changes in your life yet. Because I know you would buy it, if you were ready. What person seeking to improve relationships with people in their life wouldn’t buy this ebook? P.P.S. Look. There are some changes that you want to make in your day-to-day life, but haven’t dared to. Why wait any longer? CLICK HERE to Claim Your Copy of "But If I Say 'No' They Won't Like Me” NOW - absolutely Risk Free. |
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Why
being ‘nice’ means being overlooked and how you can BREAK OUT OF the
‘nice’ trap.
The
5 blocks and fears that stop you being able to set boundaries.
(p13-17)
How
ANYONE can ‘do’ boundaries successfully, regardless of how they
have struggled with them until now. (p21-23)
